Life is what you make it. If you aren't happy then change. It really is that simple. But anything in life that is worth it will be a lot of work, it will be challenging. Don't bring people down constantly with all of your problems, go see a therapist. Your relationships will become so much more rewarding.
Next, take a good look at those people who you surround yourself with. Do they have characteristics and traits that you admire? You should be surrounding yourself with people who you would like to emulate. People who, just like you, want to be happy, and who are also constantly trying to improve themselves, inside and out. That doesn't mean that you have to burn bridges or completely cut out people who are debbie-downers or family members who drive you batty. Just don't continue to spend the majority of your precious time with them. Distance yourself.
Get outside!!! Nature is awesome and will help you hit the "reset button" when you are stressed out, overwhelmed, or angry. For me, it's being by water. A lake, a river, a bay, an ocean- doesn't matter, just watching the water helps me to calm my mind and be much more clear-headed.
KISS! Keep it simple stupid. Don't kill yourself (literally) trying to relive your twenties and take ridiculous risks with crazy drugs. Keep it simple. If you don't have a problem or substance abuse issue, then stick to the basics- alcohol, cigs, ganj, just in moderation. Don't overdo it. Come on, we are adults and have been for some time now. You know what you can handle and what you can't. I prefer, in my 30s, to be in control (I'm a control freak, it's something I will always have to work on) and to remember my nights!
Also, STAY THE HELL AWAY from opiates- and stay away from people who are addicted to them. They are killing more people who I have known and loved than anything else. More than car accidents, more than cancer. It's out of control. Say NO to pain killers. Try natural pain relief methods. Look into eastern medicine. Or reflexology. If you know someone who is an addict to heroin or any opiate (oxys or seboxyne) the best thing you can do to help them is let the professionals help them. Rehab. That's what it's there for. Addicts are liars, thieves, and manipulators. They will say or do anything to have their way. There's no "getting through to them" no matter what or who says it. If there was one thing I could hit the delete button on in this world and it would disappear completely forever, it would be opiates. End of discussion.
Do nice things for others without expecting anything in return. Trust me. It feels good. And spend as much time as you possibly can with your parents, grandparents, kids, nieces, nephews, siblings. Life is short, our time of departure is unknown.
Be honest. With yourself, and with others. And patience, it goes a really long way and always pays off. Think before you speak. Once you say it, you cannot take it back. This applies to text messages and emails and posts too.
Don't pull the "I'm not good with death/funerals" card. If someone you knew and loved died, go to their services! You will not get a second chance. They will be smiling down from heaven for your presence. This goes hand in hand with living your life with no regrets. Everything you do and say, you should be behind 100% every time. Don't keep secrets, they cause cancer. Secrets cause stress, stress causes bad things to happen inside your body, trust me. Every night when you lay your head down to sleep, you should have a completely clear conscience. Pay attention to your dreams, they are your subconscious guiding you. And, if you believe in these things, it is the easiest way for your spirit guides, or guardian angels to communicate with you.
Don't hate. I am not a religious person, I would consider myself spiritual. But I've read enough books, taken enough classes to know that religion equals love. When "religious" people are preaching hate, you can be assured that they are extremists, aka crazies. So just love, all things. Do your part to protect our environment. Don't litter, recycle things, don't waste.
Use wet wipes. If you got poop on your arm, would you use a dry paper towel to get it off or do you think maybe you should wet the towel first? Think about it. Your underwear will thank me. And, it may be a good idea to toss those undies with streaks. It's gross. Your next mate agrees with me.
Last but not least, take care of your body. Eat right and not too much. Don't drink more calories than you eat. Exercise. As much as possible in any way possible. I hate gyms. But I love to go hiking, kickbox, and have sex. Not boring sex. The kind that leaves you breathless and sweaty. That's my kind of exercise. But everyone's different, find your perfect kind. And if you have multiple partners use protection. Don't bring kids into this world if you aren't adept to raising them. And STDs are a big turn-off and probably expensive, so avoid them.
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